Relationships

Self

Most of us don't ever think about the kind of relationship we have with our self, but it is one of the most important relationships we have. The way we talk to our self, the way we treat our self, and the way we view our self directly influences the way we treat and have relationships with others.

hands heart It is hard to comprehend that the way we treat our self is very close to the way we view others in our life. One example of this would be, looking in the mirror and seeing someone who is sick and tired of everything, thinks negatively about the day and what may lie ahead, and then thinks about how if there was a way to change what you looked like you would do it in a heartbeat because no one has legs, eyes, lips, stomach, or a nose like I do. After leaving the house you stop and get coffee to go but when you go to get in your car there is someone blocking your car door. So you get upset and tell them to move their f***ing car. You finally get in your car and your phone rings, it is your daughter who needs money for her school project. You get angry at her and remind her that you don't have time for her problems. She tells you how important it is for her and how if she gets a bad grade it will be your fault for not bringing her the money so she can finish what she needs to do for her project. You tell her you will be there and drop it off but this is the last time, even though you know in your head that it won't be. You then call your boss to make up some excuse about being late. You turn the car around to head to your daughters school and see one of your favorite fast food places so you pull in and order something nice and greasy because after all you deserve it.

This is how we have a bad relationship with our self. Instead of setting limits and boundaries with others we allow circumstances and other people to have control of our thought and emotions. If you would like help getting out living like this please email me for a free consultation at kelly@repairnlife.com

Codependent

Codependent relationships do not know where you end and your partner begins, if your partner is having a bad day then so are you. In a codependent relationship your whole world revolves around the other person. If they don't like something you are planning then you probably won't follow through with what you were planning. This relationship is based on control and doing anything to stay in the relationship even if it isn't being true to who you are. This relationship is based on fear and not love. Fear of being left, not liked, not accepted, or rejected; this creates a constant stream of thoughts that keeps this person from being true to who they are. In fact who they are; changes.

Codependent relationship usually look fine from the outside but you lose yourself in the relationship. Your friends go by the way side; your family is also pushed aside. Things that were important to you are not important now because they are not important to your partner. Your friends may even try to tell you but you are so enmeshed in this relationship you just tell yourself they just don't understand.

If you are involved in a codependent relationship there is hope and you can repair what you have lost.

Texting and Sexting

texting In todays world its amazing how much the technology has changed. Instead of talking on the phone we text. What people don't know is that texting can lead into other things. Most Teens text more often then not, the problem with texting is that teens start with sending innocent pictures, then they turn into not so innocent pictures. Most teens don't realize that they are being pressured into sending those pictures. If you would like more information about this or help get online to the chat room and sign in as a guest.